Having a baby has changed my life entirely. I haven't been a selfish person, I think, but motherhood makes you totally selfless. I was thinking the other day about things I would do for my baby, things that are essential, things that would help him to grow strong, smart and independent, things that may be considered as a small sacrifice ... I hope I will try to come up with 100 things and pieces of wisdom. Right now he is 1 year old so my list will go as he grows.....
Feel free to add your own:
1. I would be OK with a lack of sleep to satisfy my baby's needs.
2. I would try to get the healthiest Organic food.
3. I would research all the skin care ingredients. Well, that's solved since I've created my own line for babies.
4. I would feed my baby first even if the whole family remains hungry, waiting.
5. I would buy him a new toy instead of something new for myself.
6. I would stay awake when my baby is sick and check on him every other minute.
7. I would watch him sleep and consider it time well spent.
8. I would watch his baby shows on TV endlessly even if I am bored to tears.
9. I would let him unroll the whole roll of toilet paper, just for fun.
10. I would lock-up all the cabinets and actually duck tape the ones that can not be locked, for safety.
11. I would drop everything I am doing and pick him up if he wants to be held.
12. I would wipe his little runny nose as often as needed.
13. And I would kiss that little nose to get better, even if I get his snots all over me.
14. I would put his socks back on him 100 times, after he takes them off again.
15. I would read him a book even when I rather do something else.
16. I would take time to prepare him a healthy meals instead of feeding him junk.
17. I would try to identify his talents and support them.
18. I would walk with him hand in hand, even if he walks very slow.
19. I would work harder to provide him better education.
20. I would teach him from the early age how to think like a business person.
21. I would teach him that nothing in life is for free.
22. I would teach him that trust has to be earned.
23. I would sit and teach him to draw even though I can not draw a stick figure myself.
24. I would teach him to swim.
25. I would teach him self-discipline and self-defense through martial arts.
26. I would teach him that women are to be respected at all times.
27. I would attend his football practice instead of going shopping.
28. I would be the biggest cheer-leader of everything he does.
29. I would encourage with praise instead of criticizing.
30. I would try not to get mad for minor screw-ups. Remembering that I was the same.
31. I would teach him that drugs are bad and only destroy lives.
32. I would teach him to be creative and inventive.
33. I would teach him that the world is not always a kind place.
34. I would play with him "hide and seek".
35. I would take time to answer his questions, no matter how silly they are.
36. I would teach him that keeping his room clean is important, and actually try to come up with the reason why.
37. I would teach him that cursing is not cool.
38. I would teach him that good grades in school pay off in the end.
39. I would teach him that good brains would take him further in life then good looks.
40. I would teach him that good brains and good looks would take him further, then in #39.
41. I would teach him that staying healthy and fit is important.
42. I would teach him that building confidence is 50% of success.
43. I would tech him that communication can resolve any issue.
44. I would teach him that it's OK to ask for help.
45. I would teach him that asking stupid questions is OK, because there is no such a thing as stupid question.
46. I would teach him that gossiping is a waste of time.
47. I would teach him that if he wants something he never had, he would have to do something he's never done. And that does not involve crime.
48. I would tech him that crime does not pay.
49. I would teach him that excessive drinking is not cool. And drinking and driving is off charts. And if I ever catch him doing it, there will be consequences.
50. I would tech him that live is not always an easy adventure. And that's just the way it is for everyone.
51. I would teach him that suicide is a permanent solution for temporary problem. And that's not an option, under no circumstances.
52. I would teach him that there are no situations that don't have a way out.
53. I would tech him that he has to love himself first before expecting someone else to love him.
54. I would teach him that in the moments of disagreements it's important not what you say but how you say it.
55. I would respect the choices he makes, even if I am not entirely on the same page.
56. I would try my best to get along with his girlfriends.
57. I would accept that his opinions may not match mine.
58. I would tell him that only white lies are OK and only to save someone from being hurt.
59. I would teach him that it's not cool to go after your friend's girlfriend. It never works.
60. I would teach him that you can not build happiness on someone else's unhappiness.
61. I would teach him that visualization and affirmations work.
62. I would teach him to dream big.
63. I would teach him not to be shy to ask for help.
64. I would teach him to help others even if he wouldn't get rewarded for that directly.
65. I would teach him that there will be dark days when everything seems like doom and gloom. But it always temporarily.
66. I would always make it clear that he can come to me with the most embarrassing/ scary/ difficult issue and I will always have his back.
67. I would assure him that I will always love him unconditionally. And sometimes it would be a tough love.
68. I would tell him that there will be times when it will seem like everyone is against him. But in reality it will be only in his own head.
69. I would always advice fairly when it comes to girls, but will let him make his own decisions.
70. I would not let him play computer games, it's a waste of time.
71. I would not let him eat fast food too much.
72. I would tell him that it's the best to learn from someone else's mistakes, but there will be times when to make your own mistakes is necessary.
73. I would tell him that in order to be happy there should be a balance between love, health and money. If one component is missing partially or entirely, it's harder to feel happy.
74. I would teach him that money is not everything. And not to sacrifice everything for the money.
75. I would teach him that happiness in marriage lays through diplomacy and respect.
76. I would teach him that cheating is not cool and hardly anyone gets away with it.
77. I would teach him to respect the elderly, as nobody escaped an old age yet.
78. I would teach him how to be a good father and a husband.
79. I would teach him how to help his wife arounf the house. In history there was no cases when a wife attacked her husband while washing dishes.
80. I would be a good grandma to his children. And will spoil them rotten.
81. I would teach him that it doesn't matter how important his job is, his family should always come first.
82. I would tell him that even if his marriage falls apart, it's OK. It happens often these days. It's better to give a love another shot, then live in a loveless marriage.
83. I would tell him that there is a soul-mate for all of us and sometimes it takes a few shots to find them.
84. I would teach him to appreciate his friends, as real friends can not be many.
85. I would teach him that as much as sometimes he might think that his parents are stupid, later in life he will realize that it was quite the opposite.
86. I would tell him that as time goes by he will love his parents more and more as they grow older.
87. I would tell him that one day he will lose his parents and that's when he will miss them the the most.
88. I would teach him to be the best man that he can be so he is not sorry when he is old.
89. I would teach him to think before acting, and not act on impulse.
90. I would teach him not to rely on someone else, but on himself.
91. I would teach him to be smart with money and save.
92. I would teach him how not to get in debt.
93. I would teach him to be protective of people he loves.
94. I would teach him that everything in life has to be earned.
95. I would teach him to be proactive and brave.
96. I would teach him to have goals and go after them.
97. I would teach him not to fear fear, as limitations are only in his own head.
98. I would encourage him to be himself and never pretend to be like someone else.
99. I would tell him that it doesn't matter how old he is, he will ALWAYS be my baby.
100. And last, but not least. I would sacrifice my life for my baby. Without hesitation.
Oh, I think I could go on, it feels like I just went through my life already.
But I am happy that my baby is just a little happy 1 year old, and I am yet to tell him all those things. Just hope not to miss a thing...